6 Reasons Why You’re Not Doing What Actually Makes You Happy

There are many things in life that make you happy, and there are many things that have the opposite effect. If you’re careful to focus on what makes you happy and decide to go out there and do it, then your quality of life can improve dramatically.

This article will list some of the reasons why people don’t do the things that make them happy as well as challenge you at the end.

1) You Think Just One Thing Will Make You Happy

Many people seem to think that doing what makes you happy means finding this one elusive “thing” that will forever make them happy. The truth is that life is about balance; many things will make you happy. My personal list includes 12 activities that I love to do, and they all make me happy.

Happiness is simply an emotion that you feel which can last a few seconds or a few hours. The key is to have lots of things that make you happy and make the most of them as they surface throughout the day. These can be as subtle as receiving a smile from a loved one or getting thanked at work. They don’t have to be activities you dedicate hours to each day.

2) You’ve Been Taught To Be Happy All The Time

No one on this earth feels happy all the time. Life is full of ups and downs and it’s healthy to experience a range of emotions while attempting to have more positive experiences in your life.

Dancing usually makes me happy; however, I also struggle with the motivation to improve, and this isn’t always fun. I can feel frustrated as I learn and grow, wanting instant results but knowing that this isn’t the way the world works. What you really want is activities that makes you happy most of the time or you’ll never learn and grow.

3) You’re Afraid Of What Others Will Think

It’s surprising but most people don’t think about you half as much as you believe they do. They’re too worried wondering what you think about them.

It’s your life and you get to choose what makes you happy–no one else. Aside from breaking the law or other dodgy behavior, you must decide to do what makes you happy no matter what others think. And generally, when you do the things that make you happy you’ll find out you were more afraid of your imagination than their true reaction anyway.

4) You Don’t Know If You Can Do It

Trying something new is always going to push your comfort zone. There is a time when everyone starts to learn something new and they suck at it. Every great, good or mediocre musician, actor, dancer, business person and sports star has failed along the way of their journey.

Feeling happy is not about the success of reaching a goal. Feeling happy is about the journey you take. It doesn’t matter whether or not you become the best in the world; it matters whether you enjoy the process (or at least most of it).

5) You Don’t Think You Have The Time

Being busy is perhaps the biggest excuse for not doing things that make you happy. But if you spend your life focusing on the things you think you have to do rather than the things you want to do, well, that’s a little backwards.

When you make the things you love doing a priority, then they get done. If you want to do a yoga class during your lunch hour but never seem to make it away from your desk, it’s time to evaluate your priorities. Where else in your life do you put everyone else ahead of what you truly want as well?

6) You Think You’re Going To Live Forever

Life is short and you wake up each morning with a decision. Either you’re going to do things that make you happy or you’re going to scrape through another day in survival mode. Once you start doing more things that make you happy, your life will get a whole lot brighter.

Stop putting off your dreams for a day that will probably never come. As Steve Jobs said:

“I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?” And whenever the answer has been “No” for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.”

It’s Time To Do What Makes You Happy

No one else is going to create your life for you. You can decide whether to fill your life with things that make you happy or constantly put them off for another day. In Steve Jobs case, it’s lucky that he lived his life to the hilt, as it was cut short far too early. This can happen to anyone.

What’s one thing that you could do today that would make you happy? It doesn’t have to be huge, but it has to be something. Even if it takes just a few minutes, you’ve started to build a happiness habit that will last a lifetime.

Why not learn from the happy people? 10 Things Happy People Do Differently

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Are You Social or Anti-Social?

Social media is pretty much everywhere. When you see people looking at their hand held device, what’s the first thing that comes to mind? They’re probably on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Instagram or about 200 others social networks that grab their attention away from life.

That’s what I think anyway.

Not too long ago I was riding the mass transportation into Boston. I had to laugh when I saw large groups of people standing around, huddled together like there was some really cool thing about to happen. Nope, nothing cool. Well, at least as far as I was concerned anyway. I asked myself, is this really happening? Life was passing them by and they didn’t seem to care. What has this world come to anyway? The social media craze that has consumed pretty much every person who owns a smart phone, tablet or something similar. This craze has completely engulfed people’s minds and hooked them on small, 3.3-inch screens with text, video, music, friends, fans and who knows what else. Social really isn’t social at all, it’s anti-social.

Just a few years after the Y2K thing calmed down, Friendster hit the street as one of the first-ever social media sites to gain traction. I have to admit, around 2002 I was not an early adopter of social media. I had friends who had jumped on board and were telling me stories about their new “circle of friends.” I wasn’t convinced. I was happy with my circle of friends right where they were, at least for now. Friendster, LinkedIn, MySpace and Facebook all started within about two years of each other. After many friends coerced me to “get with the program,” I decided to get my own space with MySpace. I wasn’t impressed, so I left MySpace for another so-called space in this newly created virtual world called social media. Soon, I became an advocate of what I think is a wonderful social media tool that I quite frankly, today cannot live without. Wow, how things have changed. Goodbye MySpace; hello LinkedIn.

Social media has permeated every aspect of our culture. Yes, I have embraced it like many others, but being social wasn’t always that way. My social story really started decades ago, when people like Mark Zuckerberg and Jack Dorsey were probably selling Kool-Aide to kick start their entrepreneurial careers as young kids. It was 1987 when I graduated from college in greater Boston. I secured my first full time job, was gainfully employed, earned a degree and was on my way. I had a vision about where I wanted to go, and what I wanted to do. What I didn’t know, was that I would eventually make a living working in and around the internet, social media and digital media space that weren’t created yet.

My liberal arts degree had taught me to think, and to do it well. What I didn’t realize was that many peers, bosses, co-workers and others would soon recognize my social skills. These social skills were not the social media or social networking skills we know today. They were the tried and true social skills that allowed me to talk to someone with confidence, look them in the eye and hold a conversation, critically think (without a smartphone thinking for me) and conduct my personal and professional life as an intelligent, charming individual. These old-school social skills would help me to become the person and professional that I am today.

Fast-forward over 25 years. Yes, I may be the senior director of staff with not much hair, but I am also the person who is a vibrant thinker, innovator, young at heart and invests in and values today’s technology-driven culture. In reality, I am not the young 20-something any longer, nor do I want to be. Today’s young college grads have a different set of challenges in front of them. A major one is how to navigate being social or anti-social. Today, the word social has taken on an entirely different meaning than what Webster’s Dictionary once called it back in 1987 when I graduated from college. There are a few things I wish I could get back from those days. But, what I really wish I could resurrect is the true meaning of the word social.

What I see and experience in today’s young kids, and even young professionals is that they just can’t seem to engage in a conversation, let alone keep it going without peeking at the 3.3″ screen that is beckoning them to disengage from life and the world around them and engage with what the tiny digital device has to offer. Being social has become a lost art. Most of generation Z and all of gen Y are now totally immersed in social media, not true social interaction and dialogue with a real person. As we get closer to the next generation, and that won’t be too far from today, social engagement as we once know it will be gone.

I am a person who loves to be social and social, if you know what I mean. I have decided to take the best of both worlds and integrate them into my work and personal life. What does that all mean? Well, it means Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Google+ and others have become staples of my personal and professional self. What I have really come to enjoy is the Google Hangout feature on Google+. I think they have figured out that even though social engagement as we once knew it is pretty much disappearing, Google has discovered how to bring it back in the form of multiple people using live web cams with video and audio, and wrap it around my circle of friends in the online world. Wow, who ever would have thought that now I can do both… social media and old school socializing, all in one place? How times have changed. Don’t give up for those of you who are anti social media, there’s a glimmer of hope.
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Marvel Is Reportedly Working On 4 New Shows And A Miniseries For Cable & Streaming

Marvel is reportedly prepping some big TV plans.

According to Deadline, Marvel is working on four new shows and a miniseries and has been quietly been looking for homes for the projects, with Netflix, Amazon and WGN America as potential homes.

The first Marvel TV series, “Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D.,” recently received a full season order by ABC after getting huge premiere ratings. The live Nielsen numbers have since cooled, but “S.H.I.E.L.D.” continues to do well with time-shifted viewing.

While “S.H.I.E.L.D.” is the first Marvel show, it’s not the first one in development. ABC and Marvel previously took stabs at bringing Hulk to the small screen and adapting Brian Michael Bendis’ gritty noir superhero comic “Alias” into “AKA Jessica Jones.” A “Cloak & Dagger” series was also reportedly in the works at ABC Family.

Marvel is also reportedly looking at developing a series based around Hayley Atwell’s “Captain America” character and short film “Agent Carter.”

For more on the possible new projects, click over to Deadline.
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The 5 Best Fashion Apps And Sites To Help You Organize Your Closet

Have you ever found yourself digging through your closet, desperately looking for something to wear? Does it seem like your wardrobe needs an upgrade? If you’re like us, then you could definitely use some organization in the fashion department.

Ever since we saw Cher Horowitz’s amazing virtual closet, we’ve craved something similar. And it turns out, our dream of a high-tech closet is closer than we think.

Today, there are countless apps and websites that can help you sort your clothes, keep track of all your garments and ensure that you never run out of new and interesting combinations. Though apps can be really useful, they are also overwhelming, as there are so many. But don’t worry, because we’ve done all the work and narrowed it down to the best five applications to help you organize your closet — and trust us, there really is something for everyone.

Closet

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If you’re looking to create your own digital closet, then this app is for you. Closet helps you categorize your outfits and keeps you up-to-date on what you’ve already worn.

PROS: Very simple and user-friendly. Great for helping you look at your own closet without feeling overwhelmed.

CONS: No social interactions (aka your friends can’t share their opinions). This app is strictly for having a mobile version of your closet.

Pose

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The Pose app makes things insanely easy for the indecisive shopper. When you’re in the dressing room, all you need to do a snap a photo of your outfit and other users can immediately weigh in. So if you’re debating whether or not to buy something, you can get a second opinion (that’s not from the pushy salesclerk). The site/app also gathers photos of items you wish to buy and items you already own, so they are all in one spot.

PROS: When you sign up, you fill out a short survey that helps identify your personal style and subsequently finds people with similar taste that you can follow for inspiration. And if you follow your favorite retailers, you can get a heads up about upcoming sales and specials.

CONS: The phone application is more visually appealing than the actual website.

Stylitics

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Stylitics is a great app for those of you who want to color coordinate your closet. The app allows you to categorize your clothes by color, brand, pattern and more. And if you’re wondering whether you already wore an outfit, simply check your style calendar. On top of all those fun perks, you also get style, trend and weather alerts.

PROS: The app comes with a “Today In Fashion History” tip so you can brush up on your style knowledge.

CONS: You can’t view your style profile using the app yet, so if you want to see who’s following you or check out what your followers are up to, you’ll need to log on to the site.

Walk In My Closet

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Walk In My Closet combines both shopping and organization. If you’re browsing the Internet, looking for something to buy, you can instantly add the item to your virtual closet, so your wish list items are all in one place. Besides sharing your closet with other users, you can also sell items you no longer want.

PROS: The “Moodboard” is a great way to gather inspiring looks you like from other users and fashion experts.

CONS: The luggage feature, which allows you to prepare outfits for an upcoming trip, is only available on the site; it would be useful if it were on the app.

WiShi

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WiShi is a new start-up site that’s all about bringing social media and fashion together. Users help style one another by using their virtal closets and putting together outfits, while the WiShi Cam app helps you upload the clothes from your closet quickly and easily.

PROS: The site allows for a very engaged user experience and makes it easy for anyone to become an instant stylist.

CONS: The WiShi Cam app can can be finicky to log into.

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Tina Fey and Amy Poehler to Host Golden Globes in 2014 and 2015

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Tina Fey and Amy Poehler, who anchored Saturday Night Live‘s “Weekend Update” together from 2004 to 2006 and tag-teamed hosting duties at the Golden Globes in 2013, are teaming up again as co-hosts of the 71st Golden Globe Awards.

In addition to hosting the awards show on Jan. 12, 2014, the duo will apparently co-host the shindig in 2015 as well.

“It’s wonderful news,” Theo Kingma, president of the Hollywood Foreign Press Association, said in a statement Tuesday“They have always been our first choice as hosts, and we’re delighted they are back for the next two years.” Read more…

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Google Smart Watch Nears Completion and Other News You Need to Know

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Welcome to this morning’s edition of “First To Know,” a series in which we keep you in the know on what’s happening in the digital world.

Today, we’re looking at three particularly interesting stories. Rumors peg Google as the next tech giant to release a smart watch. In other Google news, the search giant wants to reward you for being open with your data, according to Engadget. And a new Twitter feature — the service now allows you to opt in to receive direct messages from any follower, not just those who follow you

Check out the video above for more on these stories.

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3 Free Twitter Tools to Schedule Tweets

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Twitter announced Monday that advertisers now have the ability to schedule tweets. If you’re not a Twitter business user but this kind of functionality appeals to you, we can help

While some social media management tools, such as Hootsuite or SocialFlow, provide similar features, we’re taking a look at three super easy, standalone services that will let “ordinary” Twitter users schedule tweets to go live in the future

Take a look through our trio of handy tools to bookmark

1Twuffer

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Twuffer lets you compose a list of future tweets and schedule their release via a simple calendar-based interface. Once you’ve signed into and authorized the service, you can pre-write your words of wisdom and view a list of scheduled and sent tweets. Read more…

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